Have you ever felt that the rotation of the earth has been flicked into double-time?
“Where does the time go?” we ask, wafting through the rapidly changing seasons.
Then, as elderly people are wont to say, “Where did the time go?”
Today, December 8, I celebrate my 55th birthday. This means that, starting next Tuesday, I can claim my 10 percent discount at Ross – not really one of my favorites, but hey! it’s 10 percent! And look at the money I’ll save on things I don’t want or need.
Truth is: I never was a materialistic person, although I have always loved nice things. Truth is: the less I have, the happier I am. Here’s what I’ve decided: from here on out, I will choose my possessions as if they were friends, not acquaintances. After all, how many real friends does one person need? My experience has shown me that the answer is: one. I’m fortunate to have three.
One of my dearest friends and, one of the most important people to cross my path and to walk it briefly with me in this life, is an octogenarian just a few years away from 90. Over his lifetime, Leo married and divorced five times. By the time he was 60, he’d liberated himself forever from the shackles of what I call “the myth of marriage”.
Why did Leo marry so many times? “I never asked myself ‘Who am I?’ and ‘What do I need’?” he once told me.
These questions, I believe, are important for us to answer at any age. Imagine how different we all would have turned out if we’d had parents that encouraged the answers to these questions.
I would add one more: “What can I contribute based on the gifts I have been given and the skills I have honed?”
If we ask ourselves these questions, our time on this earth might prove more meaningful and our lives more valuable – at least to us.
Asking these questions – the answers to which reside inside each one of us right now – can help us to become more conscious livers of our lives – cognizant of the choices we make and aware of how our choices contribute to the creation of the lives we live – and want.
“Who am I”?
“What do I need?”
“How can I use the gifts I’ve been given and the skills I have honed?”
Answering these questions can also help us to avoid becoming “tempus fugitives” and instead, time can become one of our real friends.